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  • Stop the Doomscroll 2025: July Update

    Hello! July has been a month of progress and it’s only now nearing its end. I attribute a lot of my progress to the fact that I’ve also started going to therapy and the mental health help that I have gotten, but THAT is not what I am going into today.

    My iPhone screen time last week was down 90% to a daily average of 14 minutes and a weekly total of 1 hour and 30 minutes. GRANTED, I have increased my laptop use time, but it is also going down. It is hard to completely track my laptop use time because it counts time that it also sits idle. For today, I have used my computer for about an hour.

    My mental focus has continued to increase, but I am also much more of a single-tasker than I have ever been before. Music distracts me just like it used to when I was in my late teens. Again, I partially attribute this to being on mental health meds, but I have been finding myself enjoying each task much more fully now. I am thinking sharply and clearly for the first time in YEARS. A little more than a decade.

    If I can recommend anything to you to help you begin to build your confidence and your contentment with yourself, it would first be to lower your screen time on your smartphone and delete your social media apps.

    Second, if you can access the resources, I HIGHLY recommend therapy. I always thought it would help, but I did not know just how much it would help; it helps A LOT.

  • Daily Writing Prompt 7.20.25

    Daily writing prompt
    What’s your go-to comfort food?

    “What’s your go-to comfort food?”

    It really depends on the situation for me. If I just want a favorite food, that’s pizza. If I am sick and want a safe, comfortable food, that’s baked potato. If I want a junk food, that’s chili cheese tots.

    “Comfort food” for me is a little all over the map.

  • Daily Writing Prompt 7.19.25

    Daily writing prompt
    What’s your favorite game (card, board, video, etc.)? Why?

    “What’s your favorite game (card, board, video, etc.)? Why?”

    My favorite game series is Animal Crossing, starting with City Folk on the Nintendo Wii, New Leaf on the Nintendo 3DS, and New Horizons on the Nintendo Switch.

    I like these games because they are simple and they have such a cute premise. They don’t require a lot of game playing skill since it’s not like a platforming game. It doesn’t take a lot of time each day to play since you can do most things in only an hour or two per day. It does take time over the years to accomplish everything, but the daily investment isn’t too much time. This is important to me as a full-time working mom and wife.

  • Daily Writing Prompt 7.18.25

    Daily writing prompt
    What foods would you like to make?

    “What foods would you like to make?”

    I want to learn how to make authentic ramen.

  • Daily Writing Prompt 7.17.25

    Daily writing prompt
    Dogs or cats?

    “Dogs or cats?”

    I have two cats. So… cats for sure.

    I like dogs too, they are the best companions because cats are aloof. Cats are great companions, especially my two cats, they are the friendliest and cuddliest two cats I’ve ever met. But dogs are much more like little kids in that they follow you around and they are loud about their requests to stay on routine and ask for walks and ask to go outside and other daily things. I just prefer cats most of the time, especially the ones that I have.

  • Daily Writing Prompt 7.16.25

    Daily writing prompt
    Which activities make you lose track of time?

    “What activities make you lose track of time?”

    There are activities that negatively make me lose track of time and there are activities that positively make me lose track of time.

    The negative one should be no surprise from my previous post, but scrolling online makes me lose track of time in a “time suck” kind of way where it takes the time away from me without benefitting me.

    The positive ones are my hobbies like journaling, writing, crocheting, reading, or playing an instrument. I gain something from this time because I’m making something or working on a skill. Reading long-form entertainment gives me something as well because I learn from the book or characters. For example, yesterday I read chapter 27 of Middlemarch by George Eliot and there was a line in that book that I enjoyed so much that I read it over a few times and highlighted it. (Page 271; “Circumstances were almost sure to be on the side of Rosamond’s idea, which had a shaping activity and looked through watchful blue eyes, whereas Lydgate’s lay blind and unconcerned as a jelly-fish which gets melted without knowing it.”)

  • Stop the Doomscroll 2025 Update

    It has been a few months since I last posted. Part of this is because I was failing for a few months. I kept the social media apps off my phone, BUT I started using my phone’s web browser to scroll Instagram for hours a day again.

    SO. I have now gotten through my smartphone and uninstalled everything that is not an only-functional app. This means my phone has: calling, texting, maps for emergencies, and music that consists of only downloaded songs for offline listening. I will also use my phone camera to take a photo in a quick moment, but I’m trying to use my point-and-shoot digital camera instead.

    Limiting this and placing my phone in one room with the ringer on for emergency calls only has dropped my screen time significantly again. My screen time on Saturday was 6 minutes TOTAL and it was all spent in the text messages app seeing pictures of my niece and nephew.

    I use my smartphone like a landline at home (making phone calls?! with my voice?!) and I keep it with me for emergencies when I’m out and about. I mean, I keep it with me for emergencies and offline music.

    When I use Instagram or Facebook, I use them on my computer. When I watch YouTube, I watch it on my computer or my TV. That’s about all that I do online as well as writing here.

    I’ve been reading the Terry Pratchett disc world Death series. I’ve been crocheting a (plain) blanket. I’ve been working my day job. I’ve been spending time with my toddler. I’ve been writing in my bullet journal.

    Previously, I was spending 6-8 hours (!!!!!!) on my smartphone. Per. Day. I am immensely proud that I’ve brought that number down to 6-8 minutes per day and that I’ve made progress on all the above items instead.

    In the next couple of weeks or days, I am going to begin writing more often and sharing some more photos of the single-use tools that I am using in my day to replace the use of my smartphone. I will also share some of the resources that I enjoy that are a source of inspiration for me to keep away from my smartphone.

  • How to Use Project Management In Daily Life

    I recently underwent the hardest test of my career: the Project Management Institute’s Certified Associate in Project Management. Along the way, I found out that I truly have a passion for project management as a field. I also found that there are many ways to make use of the principles of project management methodologies in your daily life. If you have any project (and, as my manager says, truly: what isn’t a “project”?) I hope that this is useful to you.

    First, the project management methods and systems all say that a project’s definition is any unique endeavor that has a defined start and end date. I have personally found that in the day-to-day, these endeavors may not all necessarily be unique but they do have a start and end, so deep cleaning my whole entire house can definitely be treated as a project. It is different from my weekly regular cleaning schedule, but it isn’t necessarily “unique.” The methods still apply if you can put a definite start and end to any of your endeavors.

    To begin the project initiation path, we must have our defined goal and identified our stakeholders. A recent personal project of mine is a crochet sweater. Defined goal: make a lovely spring sweater. Who would the stakeholders be? Stakeholders are anyone who is interested in the project and its completion, or anyone who will be working on the project. Back to my crochet sweater, the stakeholders are me, myself, and I: I will be the one wearing the finished sweater, I am the one who wants the finished sweater and the one who initiated the project, and I am the one who will be constructing the sweater by hand. If you want to make your project initiation more “official” you can make your project charter (there are many online examples and templates) and enlist the help of a few more stakeholders. These can be people who will be helping you in your endeavor (such as family deep cleaning the house with you) or someone you want to be held accountable to. Once you have other people involved, I highly recommend creating the project charter so that the goals and stakeholders are on a piece of paper. This just helps to keep the project clear because if it’s just in your head, it won’t remain clear.

    Once the project is initiated, it’s time to begin the planning, budgeting, and scheduling phase. In the case of my crochet sweater, this mean listing all the resources that I will need to complete the work and allocating those resources on a schedule. Resources will include things like labor, time, supplies, and money for those supplies. For my sweater, I will utilize my skills to use a standard size crochet hook to turn two skeins of synthetic yarn into a pattern that I found free on the internet. I know that I am a slow crocheter, I work full time, and I have a family with a child, so my time devoted to the project will be very limited. You don’t necessarily have to create an official schedule for a personal project unless you really would like to see it through to completion. In true project management methods, do not use a hard date for when you think the project will be done. Estimate the amount of time it should take based on the resources that you have and create the schedule that way. If needed, you can adjust your schedule as you go, but keep your stakeholders informed if you do! In the case of the crochet sweater, it would take me approximately a year to complete the project.

    Now that you have your project goal and plan, it’s time to begin the work! This is the execution phase. It’s when things start to come together (perhaps fall apart a little bit, then come together again) and you begin to see the project come into being. Communication is the name of the game if your project involves a project team and stakeholders. For example, if you are deep cleaning, everyone should have an assignment already established during the planning phase. As tasks are completed in the deep cleaning project, ensure that your team has all the resources and supplies they need, check in with them on status updates, and check in with anyone who is awaiting progress updates as the project is completed.

    After the execution phase, it is the closing phase. This is when the deliverables or the results of your project are handed off to the proper parties and any lessons learned from the process of the project are documented. In the example of the sweater, this means that I have my new, handmade sweater to wear, and I should take notes about what went well and what did not go well with my project, whether it was with the planning or the execution. In the example of the deep cleaning the house, the deliverable is the nice, shiny, clean house delivered to the family that resides there. If you worked with others, a good way to exercise the closing phase is to ask them how they think the project went and what, if anything, they would do differently. You can do this with an electronic form after completion or over a pizza dinner after completing the work. Take notes of what everyone says if you don’t use a form.

    Now, there are many different methodologies for project management. This outline above loosely follows the Waterfall approach with a little bit of an agile idea. Most home projects and simple projects can easily follow a Waterfall approach. There are many more methods that are outlined in the Project Management Body of Knowledge as well as in courses on Coursera and LinkedIn Learning. The outline that I have provided definitely does not encompass all the ways someone could use project management in their daily, personal life.

    If you have familiarity with project management, how would you utilize the ideas and methods in your everyday life? If you aren’t familiar with project management, what do you think you could use in your life from the methodology?

  • Stop the Doomscroll Weekly Recap

    Over the week, I did find two new apps to use but they are not time-wasters. The two apps are Wellos and Fable.

    Screen time recap last week

    Wellos is a health app that I have access to through my insurance. Fable is a book tracking app that also has book groups. I saw it through Instagram before I got rid of it and Fable is a great alternative to Goodreads since I’ve been trying to drop Amazon. (Goodreads is owned by Amazon.)

    Even with the addition of health and reading tracking, my screen time for the week went down by 58% from the week before.

    By creating a barrier to the apps for myself by only accessing them on my computer, I have greatly increased my reading time. I was able read the majority of the first Wheel of Time book in about 3 days. (The book is 744 pages!) I also finished reading ‘Home is Where the Bodies Are.’ (Not my favorite read.)

  • Stop the Doomscroll Day 2

    Today was a more typical day with listening to YouTube in the morning and the evening but it is still progress. The screen time app said that my daily average is down 76%!

    Screen time 3.24

    Even though it looks to be more than I would like, this is exactly what I was hoping for.

    As an anecdote, I feel that my mood has been more stable but also more neutral. That is to say, I often feel like I feel nothing. It’s true that emotions are not supposed to be up and down constantly and shifting from very high to very low quickly, but I just feel very neutral and it feels like nothingness right now. I hope that using my time productively by making things and cleaning things will help any boredom to become fulfilling.

    I have made progress in reading: I read two chapters of “Home is Where the Bodies Are” at lunch time and I read one chapter of the first “Wheel of Time” book in the evening.